What does “Confidence” mean for Erisa?
Erisa, 28, is a Registered Librarian and Information Literacy Instructor from the Philippines. She is now pursuing a career as a Virtual Assistant.
Passionate about organization, research, and helping others, she blends traditional expertise with modern digital skills.
I am skilled in Microsoft Office, Canva, social media tools, website management, and eBook formatting. Experienced in email, data, and file management, I excel in organization, communication, and creative content. With strong problem-solving, adaptability, and attention to detail, I efficiently handle tasks while learning new systems quickly.
When we use language, we often mean different things because of different life experiences and life stories.
Darryl Lim 00:00
The word CONFIDENT. What does it mean to you?
Erisa 00:02
For me, confidence, it's the key that breaks the barrier in communication, um, even if your grammar isn't perfect. Speaking with clarity and self-assurance makes people listen and understand you better. Confidence allows you to share your ideas freely without overthinking every word and the real connection happens if you're confident enough on what you are going to say, just go with the flow. Go with the sentence. Go with what are you thinking? Go with your thoughts, something like that.
Darryl Lim 00:39
What does it mean to you? REAL CONNECTION?
Erisa 00:42
Real connection? Um, if you can exchange ideas with others, I guess that's a connection. If you truly, really understand each other, I guess it's connection.
Darryl Lim 01:00
What is "UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER"? What do you mean?
Erisa 01:08
Oh, it's deep. Understand each other?
Darryl Lim 01:12
Yeah, what do you mean by "understanding each other"?
Erisa 01:16
If you truly understand the message and allow the listener to focus on the meaning, not the mistake. You both communicate openly and confidently. It's easier to connect various differences and find a common ground as long as you understand each other.
Darryl Lim 01:38
Ah, so there's common ground and then I think you said openness also, yeah, where you're open to each other, there's common ground, and you can connect to each other without focusing on the mistake.
Erisa 01:57
Yes.
Darryl Lim 01:59
Do you have any personal experience of conversations where you feel like both of you really understand each other?
Erisa 02:11
Oh, well, I guess I wanted to share my recent experience. I recently... I ended my contract on my previous work, and now I don't have a job. So I remember I was chatting with my friend, and I am sharing to her that remember when I was in college, we were just... our biggest problem is to finish our homework, to finish our project. Now our problem is paying bills, finding time to rest and then, and then our pressured life, because we're getting older now we should, by now, we should be successful, something like that. We were pressured on our own life or on our own self, I guess, something like that. And then she also shared to me that even if she has work, she's still pressured. Something like that,
Darryl Lim 03:13
And because of the shared experience, you felt that she understood and that you were connected.
Erisa 03:22
Yes, because we were both experiencing that, even if we're not on the same scenario, like she has work [but] I don't have work, but I still feel pressure, and she also feels pressured. Something like that. We were also both reminiscing our college days.
Darryl Lim 03:43
What does PRESSURE mean for you?
Erisa 03:47
Oh, I think I'm going to cry. Pressure? Um, because I'm getting older, so I am now pressured on my life, um, stress, ah, stress, yeah, feeling stressed, you're stressed about your work, stressed about life, the expectations, the deadlines, the challenges.
Darryl Lim 04:22
When was the first time you experienced pressure?
Erisa 04:25
Right now!
Darryl Lim 04:27
Right now? Like, now?
Erisa 04:28
No, I guess it's been a month since I left my previous school. Yeah, my previous work, I guess. Yeah, I'm experiencing anxiety today, pressure in life. I guess my age, because of my age, I guess. You know, they have the timeline: at the age of this, you need to get that one. You need to have that one. You need to have this kind of money in your bank account? Yeah, right now, I'm experiencing that right now. But I'm still balancing my life, I'm still balancing my life, I'm still enjoying but at the same time I feel pressured.
Darryl Lim 05:18
Because it's like there are many things pulling you from different direction, different places?
Erisa 05:24
Yes, also my indecisive thoughts.
Darryl Lim 05:30
What do you mean by that?
Erisa 05:32
Um, sometimes I wake up. I want to become a VA. I want to work from home. And sometimes I wake up, I want to do a office job. I want to travel, something like that.
Darryl Lim 05:45
Yeah. So we have different desires and dreams as well that lead to the pressure.
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